The Clinton Herald, Clinton, Iowa

Food & Health

December 21, 2013

Being turned off by boyfriend is reason to not marry him

DEAR MARGO: I’ve been living with a guy for nine months, and it’s fair to say I am the nosy type. Past relationships have made me not trust anyone.

Seven months into the relationship, I am looking at his online chat logs. I am reading a conversation between him and a female when he tells this person to start talking to him on his other IM account, one I never knew he had.

Well, he has another account where it says he is a cross-dresser and bisexual.I begin to freak out thinking the man I love is gay. So I confront him, and he tells me that he has been in four sexual relationships with males, just out of curiosity. This all happened before he met me, so then he decided he wasn’t gay.

He has started counseling, doesn’t use the computer anymore, and is doing everything he can to prove that he loves me and wants to be with me. So I guess my question is, what do I do? I love him, but I am not sexually attracted to him anymore. Every time we start to become intimate, I need to stop, because all I can think about is him with another man. — Confused and in Love

DEAR CON: It is admirable that this chap has gone into counseling and forsworn the computer (something I would be incapable of), but the fact remains that there’s a bisexual underpinning to his sexuality.

The deal breaker, as far as I am concerned, is that you are totally turned off. Those images are unlikely to go away. — Margo, unhappily


DEAR MARGO: I work in a stressful, fast-paced call center, and I enjoy reading on breaks and at lunchtime. That gives me roughly an hour to read each day.

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