When interacting with our children, we are used to using questions and commands; however, one problem with this approach is that it forces the child to enter our world rather than allowing us to enter his or her world. Therefore, during this time commands and questions should be avoided.
As your child gets older it is important to show interest in your child’s activities.
This can go a long way in creating and restoring a relationship. It is vitally important to attend extracurricular activities in which your child participates as it sends the message that you have/will continue to be involved in their world.
Also, focusing on helping your child develop his or her talents is not only an excellent way to connect, but can have long-term positive ramifications.
The bottom line is to make sure that as parents we sacrifice time and effort to step outside our activities and interests and enter our children’s world. This investment of time and energy benefits all parties involved.
Today’s summary emphasizes building a relationship with your child. Next week we will discuss effective methods of implementing and enforcing rules.
Tom Millard is a psychologist with Cornerstone Wellness Center in Clinton.