The Clinton Herald, Clinton, Iowa


May 3, 2014

Multiple answers for common question

This classic column first appeared in May 2006.

DEAR MARGO: I have a lovely 17-year-old daughter who identifies herself as bisexual and is currently in a relationship with a very nice young lady (same age) whom we have known for several years.

I feel blessed that my daughter feels comfortable and secure enough with my husband and me to let us know about this relationship. BUT . . . how do I answer questions from friends and parents of other teens about whether my daughter has a boyfriend yet?

These people are not prying; it’s just the usual chitchat about who’s going out with whom. While my daughter is “out” at her school to her friends, she is not yet easy talking about it with, say, her rather conservative grandparents. How do I deflect the question about boyfriends? — Mom Who Wants To Say the Right Thing

DEAR MARGO: I commend you and your husband for your accepting and loving attitude toward your daughter’s sexuality.

As for responding to questions about whether there’s a boyfriend, you have some options, according to how you want to play it. You could say any of the following: “There may be someone special, we’re not exactly sure.” “No boyfriend at the moment.” “Actually, she has a girlfriend right now.”

If all the parents of gay kids could be like you, the world would be a calmer place. You have my admiration. — Margo, comfortably

DEAR MARGO: I need your advice about how to deal with the mother of my 9-year-old son’s best friend.

My son and “Mikey” have been friends since they were in diapers, and Mikey is not the problem. He is actually a pleasure to have around. He is, however, very advanced intellectually, and there is no question that he is far ahead of his peers.

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